How To Feel Like You Again
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One of the hardest things to do as a mother isn’t the sleepless nights or the breastfeeding. It’s not the snotty noses and the PTA meetings. It’s finding out who you are as a woman. You are irrevocably changed when you become a mother. You carried the universe in your body and you built a whole new person – it’s a miracle. It doesn’t matter how easy it was to get pregnant, it’s a miracle that you have a baby and now you have your own family. It doesn’t matter what your job is or what your hobbies are, you need to know who you are outside of being a mother.
You are not the same woman you were before you had a baby, but that doesn’t mean that you aren’t still you – wonderful, passionate you. The problem is that we women spend all of our time putting our babies and our partners and our jobs first and we forget about ourselves. You need to work to feel like yourself again, and we’ve got some of the best suggestions to help you to do that.
- Sit and listen to yourself. Let the swirling thoughts in your head settle and figure out what you want from yourself. You have to listen to the thoughts that you have swirling and when they settle, you will know what you want for yourself. Do you want to start working out? Do you want to shop for Curves apparel and replace your clothes? Do you want to go on a spa day? Sit and figure it out!
- Give yourself the time to be you. Yes, children are all-consuming, but family and friends are there to help you and make you feel supported. You need to take advantage of the people you have around you and carve yourself some time. It doesn’t have to be much, but you cannot rediscover who you are without any time for yourself in which to do it.
- Start recognizing your stress. Sometimes, we bury the stress we feel and it becomes consuming. Don’t be overtaken by it; you need to recognize it and work through it. Whether you take your new leggings to yoga and breathe it out or you hit the streets and run until you can’t, you need to work out your stress. Repression isn’t healthy for anyone, least of all a busy mother!
- Update your wardrobe and do it quickly. Yes, you’re a mother now, but does that mean you have to live in the same clothes you wore at the precipice of labor? Absolutely not. Get out there to the shops and replace the shapeless clothes that no longer fit your body! You deserve it!
Finding yourself again is hard after children. It’s why so many people believe that they are having a midlife crisis. You’re not. You’re just rediscovering a brand new person who bloomed as a result of her experiences. Don’t confuse the two things and you will feel happier as a result.